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I personally have some reservations about the fascist hierarchy in BDSM, although I'm not saying it's bad, atleast until I learn more. Which I will do; that's my job, after all. But so far, I've talked to several people who are involved in the lifestyle, and it's left me with some concerns.

I'm concerned that the "training" involves more indoctrination than education. I've chatted, asked questions, and, most worrying to me, I've heard almost the same words from several enthusiasts. Some people have a "need" to submit to a more aggressive person. Some have a "need" to dominate and manipulate others. It's a "loving relationship" based on "trust", and so on.

When everyone I ask says the same thing, using practically the same language, my "groupthink detector" starts ringing. There definately does seem to be a basic doctrine to this. That might be OK, but I'm concerned that the doctrine is really an elaborate excuse for sexual bullying: a veneer, craftily painted and worked, concealing a true core of sexual exploitation and opportunism.

Wow, I think I'm gonna frame that sentence, lol :-)

The molestation grove

Things get more disturbing as you walk on the wild side of SL sex. One of the spookiest activities is what residents call "ageplay". As our Otto Z. Stern has said, if you didn't have a troubled childhood, you'll find one waiting for you in Sadville. You will find adults with child avatars looking for a "mommy" or a "daddy"; there are others in adult guise who frequent places, such as the "molestation grove", in search of juvenile-looking partners willing to play the role of a child or teenager in a sexual way. Often, incest fantasies are combined with this.

Linden Lab says it has taken pains to make sure that real-life adults stay off the teen grid, and real-life teens stay off the adult grid. One can only hope this is true, because even just the fantasies could be incredibly dangerous to children irl. It's important that all the ppl involved are role-playing adults. And even then, you might worry that they encourage exploitation, rather than satisfy the urge harmlessly, so you have to hope that they're an outlet, not a cause, as well.

But if SL ageplay is an outlet, then I'm all for it. The more deviants there are on the adult grid, the fewer there are in the streets, which is a win/win recipe to me. So I would say to anyone, if you have any sexual feelings toward children, please keep them in SL, and please only explore them with other adults. And if that's not good enough for you, then do yourself and everyone else a favour by organising an "accident" while cleaning your revolver.

Would you like hairballs with that?

There are residents with animal avatars. Sometimes they're cartoonish, sometimes they're carefully-rendered anthropomorphic critters, and sometimes they're hybrids: humans with wings, tails, and the like. These can be alternate avatars, or alts, although there are numerous residents with a fixed furry identity. And yes, they have sex - with human and fellow furry avatars alike.

I mention this briefly because it goes to my next column, which will be about role playing primarily, and sex incidentally (the two overlap greatly in SL). The furry community is about much more than kinky sex, so we'll explore it in more detail next time.

For now I'll just add that whether you're a longtime resident, or a newbie just starting an erotic journey through SL, you haven't seen it all: you can still find just about anything you might want, or merely want to try, in this virtual smorgasbord of sexual fantasy. Just don't let Xcite distract you too much: remember, the brain is the real sex organ. ®

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